A Mature Parent

This isn’t a phrase we come across very often. But this term, according to me holds immense significance in this world.

Children are always expected to be strong emotionally and should learn how to face problems in their lives, since their childhood. And after growing up, when they don’t seem mature enough to make their decisions or opinions, they have that same standard quote – “Tumne duniya nai dekhi, tum abhi naadan ho“. Now my question is, “Kya aapne unhe duniya dekhne di hai??” They have always been controlled (over protected) by their parents. And honestly I do respect it and totally understand their concern. They fear that if their kids come in contact with a wrong person, their lives would be affected, and that they trust THEM but not the WORLD.

At this point I feel that it’s their responsibility to train their kid in such a way that parents must be able to trust the people their child trusts. They can’t be present everywhere with them and one day we all have to sort our problems on our own. So for that kids just need their support and faith rather than supervision and doubt.

That’s what according to me MATURITY in a parent. As parents you should consider that you can’t be always right about your opinions from your experiences. Today’s world is different than yours and your ideas about each and every thing cannot be relatable to your children anymore. Even if they are, you should give a chance to your child to figure out the solution and learn from the mistakes made. You just cannot expect him/her to blindly follow your instructions without questioning about anything.

On one hand, you want your kid to become responsible and sensible, but on the other hand you put a lot of restrictions on them which hampers the learning and experiences they could get by their methods. And you do this in the fear of bad consequences followed by their independent decisions. That’s why you constantly threaten them about the risk factors of their choices.

Dear parents, you are indirectly teaching them to AVOID problems and be in their safe zone. If you think you can keep your child from all the negativity by shielding them and drawing lines for them, you’re mistaken. For once, let them take a wrong step and realize their mistake. Believe me that would be the best lesson you could give them.

One last thing I want to share is – You’re exactly the same age as your child is as a parent. So if you want your child to be mature enough, be a MATURE PARENT first.